Medical Examiner

Here we go … The medical examiner called today. While she has nothing to explain Owens death, she is investigating some things that would effect the other boys. My chest tightened. Ok. I keep telling myself “this is why we opted to do the autopsy”. We don’t expect to get an answer as to why he passed. Rather we have a responsibility to learn what we can in order to protect our boys or even other infants. We are keeping ourselves open to whatever “good” may come of this.

She wants to meet in person. How about tonight? Tonight? Should I be worried? It’s too late, I can’t lie. I’m worried. I don’t want to hear something bad. Will this mean more tests for the boys? Or for Doug and I? My head spins out of control … Did Doug and I make defective babies? Will we have to worry about this if one day we decide to have more kids? Are we in danger of something else terrible happening?

I can’t imagine that the medical examiner meets with a lot of people face to face … then again, I really have idea. There is something though that is more than we should be reading in a report or hearing straight from her.

5:30 tonight we’ll find out. Good or bad we’ll have the knowledge we opened ourselves up for. This is the reason why we opted to have the autopsy. Be strong Mel. You can do this…

Love, Mel


  1. Sending prayers and happy thoughts your way Mel! Good Luck!! You’ve come this far and your right, just breathe and you can do this!

  2. Mel,

    My thoughts are with you. I am praying for you and Doug to have strength and that your worries will end up being ok.

  3. Praying she has good news for you. Whatever that may be. Maybe this is just another way your Little Warrior is watching out for his brothers.

  4. Mel,

    You are a strong woman, you can handle anything that comes your way. every experience you have is making you stronger for whatever is to come. The woman could feel that your loss deserves a face to face meeting with you and Doug. I know she has feelings and emotions for the job that she does. I am sure she is a strong person to do what she does, and i’m sure she is a compassionate woman, wanting to help you in your healing journey. We continue to hold you close in prayer, and we continue to feel your Warrior Owen, he is there with you, every single day.

  5. I’ll be thinking of you guys this evening. I’m praying that you don’t get terrible news, and that whatever you do find out you will be able to use to better care for your other children. Huge (((((HUGS))))

  6. Praying for good news while wearing my newest orange shirt. I doubt medical examiners meet many people face to face but I also doubt they’ve come across many cases like your warrior.

  7. Mel,
    I am so sorry that you are going through even more. I hope and pray that everything will work out for the best. I am praying for you. I will also ask some friends of mine to pray (Let me know if this bothers you). Sending love and prayers!

  8. You are one of the most courageous women I know (by way of internet)….bless you for being brave enough to do this…for YOUR boys and many others!

  9. The medical examiner also wants to meet with me. I was supposed on July 6th but he cancelled last minute on me. I have yet to hear of a date to reschedule. My little guy had a rare metabolic disorder that showed itself like SIDS. I have a terrible feeling about what he has to say to me. I’m pretty sure its a genetic thing….hopefully it was just because of the combination of me and mr waste of skin. Hopefully it’s testable and treatable in my future children if it comes down to that…I’m pretty scared about what he has to say. I hope you got good news. Thinking of you guys. Xoxo

  10. Thinking about you all night Melissa; I hope that the news you received allowed for some comfort and that you got some sleep last night! I am sending hugs your way!

  11. Mel & Doug,

    This was my Bible verse for today. There is no coincidence that God put this in my path today…

    Ephesians 3:16-19

    ” I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp
    how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God”.

    Hugs and Kisses

  12. Dear mel,
    May God provide you strenght and support tonite and all the days to follow. Love, prayers and a big hug, sher

  13. Praying that everything turns out just fine for u and your family. Always in my prayers.

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