So I caught this nasty bug … Really sore throat, head congestion … Quite frankly I feel like crap. Doug offered to come home early on Friday and I felt more guilty being sick than him taking a half day of vacation to watch the boys for me. So I braved it… Until Logan puked at the table when having his afternoon snack. I then called him begging him to come home early. Of course by the time he got home I had already given both boys a nap and cleaned up the mess at the kitchen table.
Why is it that moms don’t really get a break when they are sick? I found myself folding laundry still … I made dinner tonight. Not really because Doug asked me to… I could have turned around and went right back to bed, but I just couldn’t. It’s like the mom gene or something. I still need to take care of my kids.
Why don’t dads have this gene? I remember the night before Christmas Eve Doug spent the entire day in the bedroom trying to kick whatever bug had gotten him sick. I just can’t sit still that long. I think of all the other things that need to get done. The grapes that need to be washed and put in the fridge. The hats I could be crocheting. The books I could be reading to be a better person. The list goes on.
I really enjoy knowing the “why” behind things. Why does the sun set? Why do people make the decisions they do? Why does love hurt? But this one just boggles me. I can’t wrap my head around why men and women are so different. Why moms and dads love their children so differently. Is it biological? Environmental? Both?
From the start Doug and I are two very different people. The best comparison I love to give is that Doug is excel and I am photoshop. He is straight lines, right angles and organized. I am free flowing, artistic and carefree. So from the start we are different. But from the stories I hear from my friends and Supermoms, these differences are the same for them. Men and women are just different. Moms and dads parent differently.
It must be part of God’s great plan. Each of us has a role in the family structure. I just wish I could understand the why behind it better. Opposites attract, right?
I am attracted to Doug because he is my opposite. I think, in a lot of ways, he challenges me to be a better person. He brings structure to my life. At times, it’s too much. It can be uncomfortable. But we each serve our purpose. We each have something valuable to give to our family.
I’m hoping i can kick this bug before Doug has to go back to work on Monday. Taking care of babies when feeling like this is no fun at all! Not to mention, I don’t want to get them sick too! I just can’t help but love them and kiss them when they are near!